Colorfullove replied to you post: what the— is this turning into an epidemic? or have guys always been this cowardly…
This is the question I have been pondering.
Is it really okay to write this off to cultural?
Do all Korean guys do this when they break up? (I’m assuming “no” but it seems common)
Maybe someone with more experience and insight about Korea can give an answer.
When my nice co-teacher enquires- I will be telling her the way he did it and maybe she has some insight for me.
Hmm, well, my little sister’s ex broke up with her through email. They had been dating for two years. So, I suppose idiots are everywhere.
I’ve had this happen to me a few times and have heard my foreign friends talk about it happening to them. And Min (who is Korean) just recently had it happen to her with a Korean guy she met on vacation in Thailand. They had only been dating for a few weeks after getting back to Seoul, but he just stopped contacting her and answering her calls and messages. There wasn’t even a break-up text. And this was after he (not Min) insisted that Min was his girlfriend.
So it’s a universal concept. And there are different variations. I see it in the dating (not relationship) realm all the time, albeit, on a smaller scale. Two people meet up once or twice, one decides he/she just isn’t that interested. They stop returning calls and messages to other person, thus cutting them off. Though, it’s quite a bit less painful, since there was no relationship and it is someone you just met. I’ve been guilty of this, though I’m trying to be more up front.
All of my friends and I have tried analyzing it and thinking “Maybe if we had done it this way…” or “If we had noticed that sooner…” but we always come to the same conclusion. It’s over and we can’t change that. And, like it’s been said (can’t remember who said it), you can’t always predict it and there is nothing you could have done differently. And it sucks. Big time. Because there is no closure. They don’t give you a chance to state your side of things.
So… it’s just a man thing. (Or maybe not, since girls sometimes do it too…) I don’t think it’s a epidemic. Maybe just a common thing. Some men are assholes. Some are cowards. And some just don’t know how to break-up, so they take the easiest route.
